7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered” (I Peter 3:7).
I often hear husbands demand submissiveness from their wives, while never understanding that husbands are to also be submissive to their wives. Even though husbands are the head of the home (Ephesians 5:22-24), they are likewise to be responsible to and responsible for their wives. In a word, they are to likewise be submissive.
How may a husband display a responsible self-sacrificial love (Ephesians 5:25) to and for his wife? The Apostle Peter gives two examples of how this must occur in the home for marriage to be God glorifying.
First, the husband must live with his wife in an understanding way. Understanding (γνῶσις; gnosis) means possessing knowledge. A husband must not only live with his wife having knowledge from God’s Word regarding his responsibilities as a husband, but also having knowledge about his wife’s personality. He needs to understand his wife’s spiritual, emotional and physical needs.
After 40+ years of marriage, I believe I know and understand my wife. My wife Diana does not cry easily or often. So if and when I receive a phone call from her and she is crying, I know it is a big deal. I need to immediately stop whatever I am doing and focus on loving my wife and meeting her needs at that moment in time.
Gentlemen, as you read this article, ask yourself this question: do you understand your wife and God’s instruction to you regarding your ministry to her? Second to your worship of God, this is your highest priority. Do you know what makes your wife sad, happy, angry or frustrated? If you don’t, you should. If you do, then minister to her today by demonstrating your understanding of who she is and how you may best love her.
This will truly bring God glory, and fill your home with happiness.
Soli deo Gloria!