
13 Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.” (1 Timothy 5:13 (ESV)
In today’s featured text, the Apostle Paul continued his warnings to Timothy about what widows the church should financially support, or not. In addition to the godly counsel, he presented in 5:3-12, Paul had more to say regarding younger widows. He was not saying each and every young widow displayed the following ungodly behaviors, but there was a recurring pattern which gave the apostle serious concerns.
First, Paul said young widows the church financially supports learn to be idlers. The word learn (μανθάνουσιν; manthanousin) means to presently and actively understand, comprehend and become an idler. An idler (ἀργαὶ; argai) is one who is lazy, useless and indifferent. They are individuals who habitually refuse to work when they are capable of doing so. What is true regarding a government funded financial welfare state, becomes the case when a church does the same for those who can work but would rather receive financial assistance instead of working.
For example, on two different occasion, a church sought to assist two women who were struggling financially. Neither situation was related to the other. However, in both cases when the women were able to financially support themselves, they did not want to lose the additional financial support from the church. They wanted it to continue.
When the church ceased its financial support, both women became upset and independently left the church. One of the women began attending another church and sought to have that church financially support her as the previous church had. She learned to become idle and did not want to work.
Second, young, idle widows also become gossips and busybodies. Instead of going from house to house to work on behalf of the church, they instead enjoy social gatherings. They become gossips (φλύαροι; phlyaroi) or people who talk nonsense or engage in foolish talk. They also become busybodies (περίεργοι; periergoi) or meddlers in other people’s lives. In both cases, they are speaking when they should work and remain quiet.
Dr. William Hendriksen writes, “Writing, then, about a certain type of young widows, the apostle’s description becomes very vivid. First, he says, they “learn to be” (μανθάνουσιν; the Greek idiom does not require εἶναι) idle: they get into habits of idleness. This idleness is brought about by their “gadding about from house to house” (literally, “making the circuit of the houses”; cf. Acts 19:13; 28:13).”
“Now this business of “going from house to house” was in all likelihood included in their work (see on verse 9), the purpose being to render assistance and impart counsel. But these young widows would tend “to make everything” of this one phase of their task, and a person can easily guess why: they were the sociable type. They enjoyed boon companionship. They liked to be entertained at (what in our day would be called) a “tea-party.” And so, they made a purely social affair of their assignment!”
“They would become not only idle but chatty and meddlesome. (Note the play upon words: ἀργαί περίεργοι. One might translate: “not busy workers but busybodies” as were some people in Thessalonica; see 2 Thess. 3:11.) The description is so very vivid that one cannot help thinking that young widows had been tried out for this kind of work, and that this was what had happened. Of course, the result was that thus they might easily be doing more harm than good. In the midst of their vivacious chatter, they would often “say things which they should not (say),” creating problems for the church instead of solving any!”[1]
The church leadership must exert much wisdom and great care in ministering to widows, regardless of their age. However, this is especially true in the case of younger widows.
May the Lord’s truth and grace be found here. Have a blessed day in the Lord.
Soli deo Gloria!
[1] William Hendriksen and Simon J. Kistemaker, Exposition of the Pastoral Epistles, vol. 4, New Testament Commentary (Grand Rapids: Baker Book House, 1953–2001), 176–177.












