
โโฆto speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people.โ (Titus 3:2 (ESV)
At the beginning of his letter to Titus, the Apostle Paul wrote, โPaul, a servant of God and an apostle of Jesus Christ, for the sake of the faith of Godโs elect and their knowledge of the truth, which accords with godliness,โ (1:1). Godliness is a consistent devotion to the Lord and His Word. Godliness is also a demonstration of devotion in oneโs relationships with other individuals; believers and unbelievers.
What does godliness look like in everyday life? How is godliness evident in the believerโs life at home, school, work, and relationships? As previously noted, godliness involves being respectful and obedient, when possible, to government (Titus 3:1; Acts 5:27-32).
Godliness also involves the believer in Christโs speech. Godly Christians are to speak evil of no one. To speak evil of no one (ฮผฮทฮดฮตฮฏฯ ฮฒฮปฮฑฯฯฮทฮผฮญฯ; medeis blasphemeo) means to โnotโ speak against someone in such a way as to harm or injure their reputation. It means to not revile and defame another personโs character. This involves not only our speech about other people but also our speech about God.
โPaul tells us that believers must โspeak evil of no oneโ (3:2), which does not mean that we never publish the wickedness of others when it is appropriate to do so but rather that we not engage in slander. The Greek word the apostle uses is blasphฤme_ล, which is the same verb used to describe the blasphemy of God. Basically, the apostle is telling us not to misuse the names of other people, whether by spreading falsehoods about them or by maligning their character,โ explains Dr. R. C. Sproul.
Godliness also means to avoid quarreling (แผฮผฮฑฯฮฟฯ; amachos), which refers to being peaceable and uncontentious. It refers to not seeking conflict. In other words, to not look for a fight.
Godly individuals are to be gentle (แผฯฮนฮตฮนฮบฮฎฯ; epieikes). This is being gracious and yielding when appropriate. When possible, it means to be tolerant of other people.
Finally, godliness means to show perfect courtesy toward all people. This refers to being personally and consistently meek and mild. It means to not be harsh with other people.
โIt stands to reason that believers should never revile any one (see on 1 Tim. 6:4). Not many believers will even need such a reminder. Insulting and abusive language is surely out of place for anyone, certainly for believers. A more stringent requirement is the one which demands that believers be not even contentious or quarrelsome (cf. 1 Tim. 3:3). But more than the absence of a vice is expected of them. A positive virtue must display itself in all their contacts with those outside the church: Christians must be genial (also 1 Tim. 3:3), that is, ready to yield personal advantage, eager to help the needy, kind to the weak, considerate toward the fallen, always filled with the spirit of sweet reasonableness. The climax is surely reached with the words: โshowing all mildness (cf. 2 Tim. 2:25) toward all people.โ Note the play on words, reflected also in the A.V. and A.R.V. renderings. Showing some mildness toward some people might not be so difficult. Nor showing all (that is, complete, thorough-going) mildness to some people, or some mildness to all people. But to show all mildness to all people, even to all those Cretan โliars, evil brutes, and lazy bellies,โ was an assignment impossible of fulfilment apart from Godโs special grace!โ[1]
โChristians are to exemplify these godly virtues in their dealings with everyone. The admonition applies especially to dealings with unbelievers,โ states Dr. John MacArthur.
Matthew Henry helpfully exhorts us: โIf no good can be spoken, rather than speak evil unnecessarily, say nothing. We must never take pleasure in speaking ill of others, nor make the worst of anything, but the best that we can.โ
How may you display these godly virtues today? Pray that the LORD will give you discernment in each relationship you have and with each person you meet. Have a godly day.
Soli deo Gloria!
[1] William Hendriksen and Simon J. Kistemaker, Exposition of the Pastoral Epistles, vol. 4, New Testament Commentary (Grand Rapids: Baker Book House, 1953โ2001), 386โ387.









