
“But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” (1 Timothy 5:8 (ESV)
Regarding the subject of the church’s caring for widows, what is the responsibility of the widow’s family? What is their obligation in caring for a widow to whom they are related? The Apostle Paul provided Timothy a stern warning for a widow’s family members who do not fulfill their familial responsibilities. What Paul positively stated in I Tim. 5:4, he now states negatively.
The apostle wrote, ““But if anyone does not provide for his relatives.” This is a conditional statement of which Paul will follow up with a concluding answer. To provide (προνοεῖ; pronoei) is a present, active, indicative verb. It means to take care of and to look after.
Within the immediate context, the object of such care are an individual’s relatives. A relative (ἰδίων; idiom) is a person, or family, to whom an individual belongs. It also refers to the family who belongs to the individual. There is a mutual, family relationship and obligations because of the family relationship.
“What has been stated positively in verse 4 is now stated negatively, more inclusively, and with greater force. The sin here censured is present in every community and in every age. Hence, the rule “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ” (Gal. 6:2) has validity for all time, particularly with reference to those whom one should consider “his own.” Does this expression “his own” as here used mean “his own close relatives,” for example, a widowed mother or grandmother, an aged and infirm father or grandfather, a physically or mentally ill cousin, an uncle or aunt on the verge of collapse? Are friends included or only relatives? No doubt, indefiniteness is here a virtue. Each case must be judged on its own merits, according to the need which exists and the ability to render assistance. But John 13:34; 15:12; Gal. 6:2 are always applicable.”[1]
Paul then inserted the phrase “and especially for members of his household,” the phrase members of his household (οἰκείων; okeion) is one word in the Greek language. It means an immediate family member. This would include a dad, mom, brother and sister, wife, children and grandchildren. The scope of family care is narrowed.
If an individual does not care for his immediate, or even extended family, when they have resources to do so, then such a person “has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” To deny (ἤρνηται; ernetai) in the context means to personally in the past, and continuing in the present, disregard the biblical faith they claim to possess. They are worse than if they were an unbeliever, who never claimed obedience to the Lord.
“Fundamental to biblical ethics is the truth that there remains knowledge of God’s character and demands within even the darkest of hearts. Non-believers may try to deny it, but God’s “eternal power and divine nature” have been perceived since the dawn of creation (Rom. 1:18–20). Everyone apart from Christ twists this knowledge to fashion idols (vv. 21–32), but the sense of a universal right and wrong cannot be erased from our consciences,” explains Dr. R. C. Sproul.
“That is why all peoples write laws to thwart actions against the common good. That is also why even the most wicked people sometimes conform outwardly to “the work of the law [that] is written on their hearts” (2:14–15). The law of God is reflected to some degree in every culture, and while some standards differ from nation to nation, all peoples have crimes that even the lowest of the low find abhorrent.”
“This principle is behind Paul’s final words to those families who count helpless widows among their number and yet refuse to come to their rescue. The willingness to support must extend to even one’s larger clan, but especially and first of all to the immediate members of a person’s home. Paul has in mind here three generations — grandparents, parents, and children. If someone is able to help any of these individuals related to him by blood and yet refuses, he is worse than an unbeliever (1 Tim. 5:8).”
“Even the reprobate have enough evidence from creation to tell them that they are obligated to care for those who have cared for them. It takes no special revelation to convince us that it is our duty to feed our mothers and grandmothers if we are able and if they cannot provide for themselves. Christians must be at least as “moral” as the pagans around them, otherwise they have clearly not escaped paganism,” concludes Dr. Sproul.
We do not possess the faith we profess if there is no evidence of the fruit of faith in our lives (Luke 6:43–45; Gal. 5:22-23). In other words, faith without works is dead (James 2:14-26).
May the Lord’s truth and grace be found here. Have a God honoring day in the Lord.
Soli deo Gloria!
[1] William Hendriksen and Simon J. Kistemaker, Exposition of the Pastoral Epistles, vol. 4, New Testament Commentary (Grand Rapids: Baker Book House, 1953–2001), 171.













