
“Honor widows who are truly widows.” (1 Timothy 5:3 (ESV)
The Apostle Paul turned his attention to three specific people groups in the Ephesian Church where there were problems and concerns. These concerns involved widows, elders, and slaves.
Pastors face many joys and sorrows, opportunities and challenges in ministry. One such situation involving all four of these distinctives is when a married couple experiences the death of their spouse. It matters very little whether the death is sudden and unexpected or when it follows and concludes an extended illness. A wife’s or husband’s death is a pain and grief which never really goes sway.
In the immediate aftermath of the loved one’s death, there is often an outpouring of care, concern, practical expressions of love and attention. However, when the memorial or funeral service is concluded, people return to their normal lives and living; all except the widow or widower.
The surviving spouse begins to experience a new normal. They may face financial questions and responsibilities they never had to before because their spouse handled the finances. Cleaning the house, washing clothes, having the automobile serviced, using coupons when buying groceries, eating alone, sleeping alone, mowing the lawn, shoveling snow, and even using a plunger to clear a stopped-up drain are tasks that become the interrelated parts of the cumulative reality of living alone.
“Deuteronomy 24:19–21 is one of several passages to which we can turn to discover how the old covenant people of God were to care for the most vulnerable persons in society. Widows, orphans (the fatherless), and sojourners in ancient times were often in danger of going hungry because they lacked resources such as land that male heads of household alone could usually provide. Knowing that such impoverished people were in their midst, the Israelites were not to pick their olive trees, wheat fields, and vineyards clean but leave some of their grain and fruit behind for those who had nothing. The poor could go into the fields and work after the harvest, collecting food to feed themselves,” explains Dr. R. C. Sproul.
“The Lord orders the new covenant church to act much the same way in its relation to widows. Paul in today’s passage moves on to the treatment of widows after discussing how Timothy and other church leaders are to deal with the varying ages and sexes represented in the Christian community (1 Tim. 5:1–2). His focus on widows in 1 Timothy 5:3–16 is likely due in part to some of the problems the Ephesian church faces with respect to its younger widows, and the biblical concern for widows and orphans (James 1:27) certainly moves him to lay down this instruction as well.”
Paul stated, “Honor widows who are truly widows.” The word honor (τίμα; tima) is a present, active, imperative verb. It means to consistently, actively and obediently give assistance to and provide for the needs of widows. A widow (Χήρας; cheras) is a woman whose husband has died. However, the apostle stipulated the widow in question is truly (ὄντως; onmtos), certainly and really a woman whose husband is deceased.
“The apostle begins his discussion in 1 Timothy 5:3–4 by calling the church to make sure that it cares for women truly in need of help. When Paul tells Timothy to “honor widows who are truly widows,” he is not speaking primarily of an attitude but of an action. That is to say, to honor widows is to support them financially just as honoring elders means paying them a stipend or salary for their work (vv. 17–18). But the church is not to expend its limited resources on every woman who has lost her husband; rather, the Christian community is to help only those who are both alone and destitute, having no family members such as children and grandchildren upon whom to rely,” concludes Dr. Sproul.
Dr. John MacArthur writes, “Not all widows are truly alone and without resources. Financial support from the church is mandatory only for widows who have no means to provide for their daily needs”
One commentator offers these practical considerations. “Only those with no other recourse are to receive financial assistance from the church, not those who cannot afford food because they refuse to give up cable television, Internet service, lavish living, and other discretionary expenses. If you need the church’s financial assistance, make sure that you have exhausted all other possible avenues of support before you ask for aid. If you are not in need, endeavor to support the poor with wisdom.”
More to follow. May the Lord’s truth and grace be found here. Have a blessed day in the Lord.
Soli deo Gloria!











