…3 not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money.” (1 Timothy 3:3 (ESV)
“In the first set of seven requirements the subdivision is as follows: under the caption “above reproach” we find first a set of four requirements having to do with the man’s attitude to Christian morality in general: he must be maritally pure, temperate, sensible, virtuous. Then, two requirements describing the man’s attitude toward (and influence upon) people who stand in some definite relation to the church. How does he treat guests from other churches, etc.? Is he hospitable? What influence for good does he exert on those who require guidance or instruction? Is he qualified to teach? In the second set of seven requirements, we see the man in his daily life, rubbing elbows with his fellow-men at work and everywhere.”[1]
In this article, we examine the first four of seven requirements regarding the elder and his daily life and living. These initial four characteristics are found in today’s featured text.
First, the elder is not to be a drunkard. A drunkard (πάροινον; paroinon) is a heavy drinker and addicted to wine. In other words, he is an alcoholic. See I Cor. 6:10; Titus 1:7. A parallel word is μέθαι (methai), which is also translated drunkenness in Galatians 5:21. Drunkenness is identified as a work of the flesh.
Any man who senses God’s call to the office of a pastor/elder must not overlook this qualification. Too many aspiring pastors and overseers do not give a second thought to this admonition. Neither do congregations who approve their position.
Second, and elder is not to be violent but gentle. Not violent (μὴ πλήκτην; me plekten) means a brawler, striker, or a bully. An elder cannot be a pugnacious person. He cannot be an individual who is aggressive, confrontational, argumentative, and belligerent.
Pastors who publicly state from the pulpit that if anyone disagrees with them to meet them in the church parking lot and to settle their disagreement with their fists violate this qualification. Such an attitude must not be tolerated.
On the contrary, an elder is to be gentle (ἐπιεικῆ; epieke). This means a tolerant, kind and forgiving individual. He is one who is moderate in personality and fair in dealing with people. He is mild, calm, placid, and peaceful.
Third, an elder is not to be quarrelsome. The phrase not quarrelsome (ἄμαχον; amachon) means to be peaceable, to abstain from fighting, and to be a non-combatant. Perhaps, this was a problem within the Ephesian church which warranted Paul to mention it twice.
Fourth, an elder is not to be lover of money. The phrase not a lover of money (ἀφιλάργυρον; aphilargyron) refers to not being avaricious, greedy, grasping and materialistic.
The behavior of many in ministry who stress their need for vast amounts of money is in conflict with the previous admonition. When big houses, private planes, expensive clothing, and brand new cars, among other items, are viewed as necessities of service, it is evidence of violating this command from the Lord.
“Such an office needs the right kind of people to fit it. It must be remembered that the early Christians came from numerous different backgrounds, and this accounts for the seemingly elementary character of some of the requirements, especially the negative ones in v 3. There are conditions about the personal life of prospective candidates. They must be temperate, self-controlled, respectable. They must be above reproach. All these qualities are to be expected in any serious Christian person but especially so in Christian leaders, for anyone whose moral and spiritual qualities do not commend them to their contemporaries are not going to have much influence as Christian ministers, and if they do, it is likely to be destructive.”[2]
May the Lord’s truth and grace be found here. Have a blessed day in the Lord.
Soli deo Gloria!
[1] William Hendriksen and Simon J. Kistemaker, Exposition of the Pastoral Epistles, vol. 4, New Testament Commentary (Grand Rapids: Baker Book House, 1953–2001), 120.
[2] Donald Guthrie, “1 Timothy,” in New Bible Commentary: 21st Century Edition, ed. D. A. Carson et al., 4th ed. (Leicester, England; Downers Grove, IL: Inter-Varsity Press, 1994), 1298.
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